It really sucks being rejected. When you send out your query letters, you’re looking for that one-in-a-million chance, the opportunity to get your hard work into the hands of someone who can actually do something with it and help bring it to life on the shelf. So, naturally, when you get the rejection in your inbox, you can’t help but feel a bit (or a whole lot) deflated by the whole situation.
But when it comes right down to it, each and every rejection letter you get is a blessing in disguise.
Hear me out. I know it sounds like a load of crap, but seriously, each and every rejection letter you get is actually a good thing.
When you find someone to help you publish your work, you want to find someone who is just as passionate about your writing as you are. You want someone who is going to vouch for your book with just as much enthusiasm as you do. You want someone who is really, honestly, truly dedicated to your work. You don’t want someone who is just teetering on the edge. You don’t want someone who has a few doubts about your future success. You don’t want the “pity agent.”
(From what I’ve gathered, most agents don’t work that way–they do only work with the authors they truly believe in. So, if you’ve landed one, don’t start wondering if they’re really right for you. You’d probably know if they weren’t!)
It may really suck to get that tenth or thirty-first or one-hundred and sixth rejection letter, but try to look at it this way: that’s just one more of the wrong agents off your list. You’re getting closer and closer to narrowing down to an agent who is going to really, truly love and fight for your work.
(Note: I believe this is true in all aspects of life. If you’re rejected for a job, a date, or a marriage proposal, you’re actually getting a new opportunity to find something–and someone–who can really appreciate what you have to offer.)
Go out, write, and don’t give up until you find the right agent. You’ll get there.